Welcome to my Site

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Hi, and thanks for checking in to visit. My wife and I have struggled to get pregnant for nearly 10 years – we have tried everything in the book and nothing came even close to working. We eventually took the decision to adopt, not something we considered in the early days and to be perfectly honest I have always been against it. I have always wanted my own Biological child and I have always believed that if I was to adopt I would not be able to love the child in the same manner. Slowly, over the years I have come around to the fact that my desperation to have a child has outweighed my adoption fears. Wanting a child more than anything is a tough position to be in, especially with so many unwanted children in the world. It makes my heart bleed to read some of the stories in the news about the terrible things that happen to unwanted Children, life is just not fair.

I decided to setup a blog for the benefit of my friends and my family to follow along on our path to adoption from the beginning right through to the end of the process so others can potentially see what is involved. Adopting a child these days is not easy from meeting with social workers, filling out paperwork and ultimately going through the process of meeting the child for the first time and the introductions to our home.

It really is a time consuming process which requires a lot of patience and dedication, not always easy when you have a full time job and little spare time to attend to things. This is one thing I have noticed throughout my life, there never is enough time to get everything done. Working at a normal job just sucks the life out of you and leaves little room for fun, hobbies and other personal things. With the adoption in full swing this year is going to be packed and I really hope I can get through everything and retain my sanity.

I plan to post more about the process in the coming months taking special care to document our journey from start to finish. As mentioned this site is more for people I know but if you stumble across the site by accident then I hope you will get a chance to learn something as well.

 

 

April Update

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Although I decided to add an update there is not that much to report. I am still busy with the paperwork which never ever seems to end. You would think it would be a lot easier to take an unwanted child and give him or her a loving home but it appears that it is a lot easier to give one away! We have been steadily getting a room prepared and painted for the eventual arrival which has taken a lot longer than I originally planned. It is helping with the apprehension that goes with this process as for some reason I keep this niggling feeling that something is likely to go wrong! There is no real reason why but I am sure that most people in this process will also feel something similar. Fortunately, I invested in a decent wine fridge which helps with stress relief, there is nothing like a glass of wine after a day filled with stress!

It also looks we will have to spend some with Psychologist. I think this is a bit overboard but it is part of the process. I guess the powers that be want to make sure we are of sound mind before they allow us to go forwards. The problem with this is the expense, a few sessions is not cheap and is just one more thing added to the whole cost. I know you cannot put a price on a child but still it seems like the list of expenses just keeps mounting up. This is a real consideration if you are thinking of the adoption process as it is certainly not cheap! When you offset the costs against the medical for a natural birth then I guess it works out fair, but, in normal circumstances our medical insurance would have covered the birth.

For now, we will just keep going through the motions, hopefully things will improve soon. I am sure you can tell from the mood of this post that a lot of things are on my mind and getting me down, I am sure it will improve soon though!